A young woman took to Reddit to ask for opinions after she refused to raise her half-sister when their dad died. Her family turned on her for that decision, the latest in a long line of assaults and insults. Here is her story.
A Tragic Car Accident
OP is a 30-year-old woman with 28-year-old twin brothers. Six years ago, their parents got a divorce after their father cheated on their mother.
After the divorce, OP’s dad married his affair partner, but not before the other woman gave birth to a daughter. Since then, OP has not had much to do with her father or her new half-sister.
But OP lives with her mother and helps care for the older lady with various health issues. OP has also remained close to her brothers, who live nearby.
A few weeks ago, OP got a call to let her know that a tragic car accident killed her father and stepmother.
Left a 7-Year-Old Without Family
In the immediate aftermath, the 7-year-old half-sister went to live with her dad’s parents, who are also OP’s grandparents.
As the dust settled, the grandparents came to OP and asked her to take in the little girl and raise her. It was a shocking request that OP refused outright.
OP has been very honest with her family that she never wants to have children, and she’s not about to make an exception for her half-sister.
Besides, OP says she has her hands full caring for her mother. And she is working through some issues caused by her dad’s infidelity and her parent’s divorce.
She Doesn’t Want the Hassle of Dealing With Children
OP doesn’t think she would be a suitable caretaker for a little girl and doesn’t want the hassle of dealing with children in her life.
Her mother has also made it very clear that she does not want the girl in her house.
But despite her protests and knowing her stance on kids in general, OP’s family began putting much pressure on her.
They said that OP is her half-sister’s closest relative, and they thought she would make a good mother figure.
Her Family Laid on the Guilt
They laid the guilt on thick, telling OP that she couldn’t leave the little girl without a place to live.
And when OP stood her ground and pointed out that she didn’t even know her half-sister, the family upped their game. They started harassing and even threatening OP and her mom.
It got so bad that OP considered calling the police, but her brothers came to stay at her place for a while instead.
Now the two young men are standing guard to fend off any of their dad’s family members who might appear at the door.
She’s Frazzled and Tired of Fighting
OP understands that her 70-something grandparents are too old to raise a little girl, and she doesn’t think it’s fair for anyone to ask them to.
But OP also thinks plenty of other people could take in the little girl. Her dad has other family members – the same ones who are pressuring her to take the girl.
And the mother’s family could take the girl in, too, but OP thinks they disowned the dead woman when they found out she broke up a marriage.
Should She Call Child Protective Services?
Now, OP is frazzled and tired of fighting with her family. But she still has no intention of taking in her half-sister.
OP is concerned that her family will end up dumping the girl on her doorstep someday, so she’s considering bringing in Child Protective Services before that happens.
Overall, she wants to move on with her child-free life.
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