A fed-up husband stirred up Redditors after jumping all over his wife for talking about their 3-week-old daughters’ looks. Let’s just say she wasn’t exactly bragging about the baby. Here’s the whole story.
They’ve Just Had Their Second Child
OP is a young father whose wife recently gave birth to their second child, a daughter. They have a son who is a few years older.
OP admits that his son is cute as a button, and it’s because he takes after his mother. In fact, OP says his son’s baby pictures are almost identical to his wife’s from the same age.
But their daughter looks more like OP’s side of the family, at least at this early age. She has his widow’s peak and thin lips, and her nose even has a bit of a hook.
None of that has gone unnoticed by OP’s wife, who has been commenting on the baby’s looks almost since the moment she was born.
… Is Postpartum Depression Making Her Criticize Their Daughter?
OP’s wife was diagnosed with anxiety and depression right before the pregnancy, and he thinks postpartum has played into her criticism of their daughter.
So, most of the time, OP has just tried to swallow his disappointment about his wife’s comments or change the subject.
But it’s been getting harder and harder for OP to ignore the jabs. His wife tells their baby she’s sorry she got her dad’s features and compares her to her brother.
OP’s wife has even promised the baby a nose job when she’s old enough. OP knows the little girl can’t understand what her mom is saying, but he hates that it’s even a thought in their family.
He Snapped “Never Degrade Our Child Like That!”
Recently, OP tried telling his wife to chill out or be nice when she started up on the baby again. But when she kept right on, OP finally snapped.
OP told his wife she was way out of line and should never degrade their child like that. Moreover, their son could hear all the mean comments, and OP was afraid he’d pick up the habit, too.
What’s more, OP said that his wife never even considered his feelings. After all, she told her daughter she wasn’t beautiful because she looked like OP himself.
OP also pointed out that his wife always complained about how her mother had caused her emotional damage with comments about her appearance growing up.
They’ve Fallen Into Silence
How could she now turn around and do the same to their newborn baby girl? OP wanted to know.
OP could see that his comments hurt his wife, and she stopped talking to him afterward.
But OP was also angry, and he didn’t try to strike up another conversation, either. So now, they’ve pretty much fallen into silence.
OP knows that his wife’s comments at least partially come from her depression and the pain her own mother caused her.
He’s Really Sorry It All Went Down the Way It Did.
And OP also doesn’t think yelling about problems helps anything, but he just lost his cool. He’s really sorry it all went down the way it did.
But OP still feels he needed to put his foot down to protect his baby daughter.
Redditors are overwhelmingly supportive of OP in this situation. They think that his wife was way out of line.
“Postpartum Depression Is Not an Excuse for Cutting Down Her Child”
Some say that postpartum depression is not an excuse for cutting down her child, while others urge OP to contact his wife’s therapist.
Many express sadness for the struggles OP and his wife have ahead of them.
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