Do You Have an ‘Orchid’ or a ‘Dandelion’ Child? A Leading Therapist Sheds Light on Children’s Responses to Trauma

A viral TikTok video featuring a therapist explains how siblings from toxic or abusive households can cope differently with similar trauma, categorizing them as “orchid” or “dandelion” children based on their ability to thrive or wilt in different environments.

Contrasting Responses to Trauma

A TikTok video featuring a therapist discussing the divergent coping mechanisms of siblings from toxic or abusive homes has gained significant attention.

The therapist highlights the concept of “orchid” and “dandelion” children, shedding light on why individuals from similar backgrounds can exhibit contrasting responses to trauma.

Judy Lee, a hypnotherapist and “orchid child” herself, became a viral sensation on TikTok with her insightful explanation.

In her video, she poses a thought-provoking question: “Why do siblings with similar trauma cope differently?” 

One Could Be More Sensitive Than the Other

Lee encourages viewers raised in unsafe households to reflect on whether one of them is noticeably more sensitive than the other.

She clarifies that sensitivity encompasses emotional sensitivity, as well as sensitivity to various environmental factors, such as food, sounds, or clothing.

Lee reveals she learned about this phenomenon during her time in graduate school.

According to Lee, individuals who display high resilience in abusive environments are referred to as “dandelion children.” They possess the ability to thrive in any setting, similar to the resilient nature of the dandelion flower. 

And Wither or Flourish

On the opposite end of the spectrum, there are the “orchid children.” As Lee describes, these children can either wilt and wither away in an abusive environment, or flourish and excel in a positive one.

Lee acknowledges that at first glance, one might assume that the resilient child is the more desirable outcome.

Who wouldn’t want a child who can adapt to any circumstance? However, she points out that the names, “dandelion” and “orchid,” aptly depict the situation. 

While the dandelion can flourish anywhere, the orchid’s true beauty emerges when it is nurtured in the right environment.

Orchid or Dandelion Children

In the case of children, research indicates that if an orchid child is removed from an unsafe environment and placed in a safe and supportive one, they can surpass the resilient dandelion child in terms of growth and development.

Lee concludes her video by emphasizing the significance of “orchid children” finding a supportive and nurturing community.

For these children, the presence of a beautiful and caring environment becomes even more vital in their journey of growth and resilience.

“Seeing this and realizing my sister has a dandelion tattoo while I have an orchid tattoo and fitting these descriptions perfectly,” one user writes.

An Ability to Endure Abuse

“I mean, I don’t love the implication that dandelion children have less potential overall because of their ability to endure abuse,” another counters. 

“I don’t know how much of this is because it seemed like certain siblings were targeted in the abuse more than others,” someone added.

What do you think? Let us know in the comments!

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