The clash between personal beliefs and parental expectations is common in families. For one Reddit user, this conflict recently took center stage when a simple request from their mother became a challenging decision.
OP’s story unfolded on a day that marked a friend’s birthday celebration and a religious holiday in their country.
As a 19-year-old student in the final days of their third university cycle, OP had a plate full of assignments to complete.
OP planned to finish their tasks in the morning so they could attend their friend’s birthday in the evening.
They told their mom about this the night before because they feared she could put OP under some conditions.
‘You Are Going to Mass”
However, on this pivotal day, OP was working on their assignments when their mom entered and told them that they would be going to mass in a few hours.
OP does not consider themselves religious despite their parents’ inclinations, especially their mom’s.
But, OP said they can’t attend mass due to assignments and mentioned their friend’s birthday celebration planned for later in the day.
However, OP’s mother became furious and warned that if OP didn’t attend mass, they wouldn’t be allowed to go to their friend’s birthday.
“No, That’s What You Said”
OP attempted to talk about it, but their mom didn’t listen.
The hours ticked away, and the moment to leave for mass arrived, yet OP remained resolute in their decision not to go.
OP tried to explain, but their mother kept saying, “This is how we agreed,” but OP said, “No, that’s what you said.”
At that moment, OP’s dad entered and started raising his voice as OP didn’t want to go.
He said OP always does what they want and that “It’s been a while since OP went to mass.”
But OP stayed firm with their decision.
Finally, OP got grounded and could not attend their friend’s party.
OP took to Reddit to ask whether they were in the wrong for not going and several Redditors sided with OP saying that they were not wrong.
“They Should Quit Having Bricks for Brains”
One Reddit user wrote, “NTA. It sounds like there are some culturally specific family dynamics here that I’m not personally familiar with, but you’re an adult and should be able to make your own decisions about how you spend your time.”
Another user added, “No not at all. You have my permission to tell them that their religion is awful and they should quit having bricks for brains.”
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