In a recent Reddit post, a user found himself embroiled in a wedding-related dispute with his atheist fiancé. Here’s the full story.
He Wanted Bells, Whistles and Choirs
The Original Poster’s (OP) religious upbringing had instilled in him a vision of a grand wedding ceremony, complete with a church setting, a choir, and, importantly, an ordained minister.
As he fell in love with his atheist fiancé, his wedding aspirations evolved to a more intimate affair in the countryside, surrounded by their closest friends and family.
Yet, the desire to have a pastor, or a family friend, officiate their wedding persisted.
However, OP’s fiancé was less than enthusiastic about the idea.
But She Had a Strong Aversion to Religion
Her strong atheistic stance and her family’s aversion to religion contributed to her reluctance.
The couple’s discussions on the topic quickly escalated into heated arguments, with both parties feeling their emotions running high.
OP tried to reason with his fiancé, hoping to find common ground.
He highlighted that the pastor was a cherished family friend, making the gesture even more meaningful to him.
The Confrontation Reached a Boiling Point
But his fiancé remained steadfast, refusing to engage in a conversation about the matter.
Despite OP’s efforts, it seemed that the mere notion of incorporating religion into their special day was a non-negotiable for his partner.
The confrontation reached a boiling point when OP questioned why it mattered so much to his fiancé, given that he had not actively practiced his faith in years.
This comment struck a chord with his fiancé, who retaliated, expressing her family’s aversion to religious elements at the wedding and how it would make them uncomfortable.
“If Your Family Actually Loves You”
In a moment of frustration, OP snapped back, “If your family actually loves you, they wouldn’t care who it was at your wedding.”
Then the couple just stared at each other for a moment and she called him an idiot and stormed off.
Now OP felt bad about what happened and took to Reddit to ask whether he was in the wrong.
More than a hundred comments poured in saying that OP was in the wrong.
Its About the Love Between You!
One Reddit user wrote, “YTA. I don’t get why you suddenly want a pastor and a church when you haven’t set foot in a church for ages. Your wedding is about the love between the two of you, not how it looks to other people.
If you can’t compromise when you KNEW your fiancée was an atheist, why are you even bothering to marry?”
Another Redditor added, “You have known she is not religious and does not believe in religion, and you have been completely ok with that. Now, you want to force your religion on her. That makes YTA.”
A third Reddit user commented, “It’s also her wedding. Why should she have to be married in the name of a deity she doesn’t believe in?”
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Source: Reddit