He Was Exhausted and Wanted a Day Off, His Wife Said He Abandoned Her and the Kids. Who Is in the Right?

In a recent Reddit post, a user shared his problem regarding shared responsibilities in the family. Here’s the full story.

A Happy Family

Bill, 35, and his wife, 32, have been married for seven years, blessed with two children – a son and a daughter.

In their household, Bill’s wife assumed the role of a stay-at-home mom.

She often manages the household and tends to the children for the majority of the day. However, during weekends and when Bill returns from work, they equally distribute the chores and childcare tasks.

Bill’s wife possesses a more outgoing and social character, leading them to relocate to her hometown, bringing them closer to her parents and childhood friends.

He Was Exhausted After a Big Work Project

In contrast, Bill identifies as more of a homebody, preferring to engage in activities such as painting or playing video games within the confines of his home.

Bill mentioned that his wife sometimes takes “girl trips” on the weekends and he looks after his kids alone.

The story began when Bill found himself immersed in a work project, demanding 60-hour workweeks over 3-4 months.

As the project neared its end, Bill told his wife well that he plans to take a day off and won’t be doing any work around the house.

She Agreed to His Day of Rest

He told her that two weeks in advance and she agreed and also reminded her three days before.

However, when that day came, his wife “forgot” about their agreement.

Bill was in the painting room and his wife interrupted, telling him she needed him to bathe their daughter because she spilled milk all over herself and she couldn’t do it because she had to wash the dishes.

Despite a sense of annoyance, Bill complied, understanding that mishaps occur.

She Doesn’t Work and Shirks Responsibilities

Later, as he immersed himself in playing video games, his wife told him to help with their son’s math homework.

Bill asked her why can’t she help him herself, but she said it was because she has some “work” to do.

It turned out that this “work” was her best friend coming over and chatting for an hour.

This made Bill furious.

He Went to Chill Out in the Park

As a result, after he helped his son and the friend left, he told his wife that he was leaving the house for 4 to 5 hours.

She asked him where he was going, and he told her he was just going to chill in the park and do whatever.

But then she said she needs him to help out with the chores and with the kids.

Bill replied that it was his day off from all work including housework and it was her job to babysit the kids on this day and he left.

He Abandoned Her and the Kids

When he came back she was acting cold and called Bill an idiot for just abandoning her and the kids.

Seeking counsel, Bill confided in his sister, who said that parenting is a 24/7 job.

Bill took to Reddit to ask whether he was in the wrong in the situation and more than three thousand comments came in supporting Bill.

“She Needs To Respect This”

One Reddit user, “NTA, when a parent leaves the house for a weekend the other cannot pass off any responsibility. So if the other takes a single day off they should be afforded the same courtesy.”

Another Redditor commented, “NTA – she gets her downtime by traveling with her friends, this is your way of getting downtime and you just happened to do it at home. She needs to respect this.”

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