In a recent Reddit post, a user found himself grappling with the question of whether he should apologize to his mother, who had disowned him multiple times due to his sexual orientation. Here’s the full story.
Her Inability To Accept His Identity
The strained relationship between OP and his 37-year-old mother had been deeply affected by her strong religious beliefs and inability to accept his identity.
Throughout their lives, OP admired his mother’s strength and determination, even though her strictness had occasionally posed challenges.
Despite this, he believed he could trust her with his truth.
However, when she discovered his sexual orientation, his mother’s reactions were far from supportive. Instead, she reacted with tears, anger, and hurtful words.
His Grandmother Accepted Him Without Judgment
OP was grounded and punished every day the first two times, but the third time she disowned him.
During this trying period, OP found solace with his grandmother, who accepted him without judgment and provided the support he needed.
But, circumstances led OP back into his mother’s household, where tensions escalated further, ending in a physical altercation that resulted in another disownment.
Lately, OP’s grandmother has been pushing him to apologize for fighting with his mother, saying that while what she did was wrong, OP shouldn’t have fought with her.
He Doesn’t Care and Won’t Apologize
OP told her that while it was wrong to fight with her, he won’t apologize as she doesn’t deserve the satisfaction.
However, the grandmother got upset and said God would want OP to apologize not for his mom but for him.
But OP was firm in his stand and said he doesn’t care and wouldn’t apologize.
A while later, OP felt terrible about what happened and took to Reddit to ask whether he was in the wrong for not apologizing to his mother.
You Have No Future With People Who Would Judge You for What a 2000-Year-Old Book Says
Several Redditors sided with OP and said that he was not wrong.
One Reddit user wrote, “NTA – Your mother views you as an abomination. You have no future with people who would judge you for what a 2000-year-old book says about things they were in the dark about and never fully understood.”
Another Redditor commented, “Totally NTA. Your mother’s job is to love and protect you. I don’t know for love, but she’s failing at protecting you.”
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