A man felt a furnace blast of Redditor rage when he revealed his reaction to a major life goal his wife accomplished. At least he has important client emails to help heal his wounds! Here is the full story.
She Was a Stay-At-Home Mom
OP is a 28-year-old man who is married to a 26-year-old woman. The couple has been together since high school and has five children together.
There are two boys, ages 6 and 4, and a girl, age 3. And then OP’s wife gave birth to fraternal twins about 18 months ago.
It was that last pregnancy that threw OP’s wife for a loop. They knew she’d have a longer recovery time than she did with her first three kids, but they weren’t prepared for what was ahead of them.
After the birth of the twins, OP’s wife was confined to bed rest for an extended period. They even hired outside help to pitch in with the kids while OP was at work.
She Didn’t Pass Her General Equivalency Diploma
OP’s dad ran an investment company, and OP worked for him in investor relations. It was a gig he started right out of high school and involved much travel, with his wife often coming, too.
OP’s wife should have graduated from high school the year they married, but all the trips kept her from finishing. And then, when the kids started coming, she never returned or even took her General Equivalency Diploma (GED) exam.
But with her now confined to bed for most of the day, OP’s wife thought she could at least use the time to do something productive and improve herself. So, she enrolled in an online GED prep class.
Even though high school was not her favorite, OP’s wife took to the self-paced setting. She found the material pretty easy, and she enjoyed studying and learning like never before.
She Continued Her Studies Part-Time
Once she was back on her feet, OP’s wife continued her studies, working them around the kids’ schedules. OP was happy she was enjoying herself, but he wasn’t impressed.
OP had glanced at the material his wife was studying a couple of times, and it looked pretty basic to him. He couldn’t see how any of it would make a difference.
But OP’s wife kept on and eventually took her GED exam. One day, she bounced into the room, excitedly, and announced that she had passed.
It didn’t seem like that big of a deal to OP. He didn’t think the GED would help his wife get a job and knew she couldn’t attend community college full-time.
“No Big Deal Since the Subject Matter Was So Simple”
So OP just nodded and kept reading an “important email” from one of his clients.
OP could see that reaction didn’t go over well with his wife. So he asked her what the problem was, and she said she was hurt because he didn’t seem very excited for her.
Then OP reminded his wife that he had been telling her that getting a GED was no big deal since the subject matter was so simple. But if it helped her prove that she understood high school concepts, then at least the money hadn’t gone to waste.
That offended OP’s wife even more; she told him she had worked very hard. She also said the GED was the foundation for starting a career.
… And He Doesn’t Think Every Little Step Merits a Celebration.
For OP, though, the bottom line is that his wife is at least 15 years away from college. And he doesn’t think every little step merits a celebration.
Redditors almost unanimously think OP is mean for cutting down his wife’s accomplishment. They say he is self-centered and tone-deaf and needs to get over himself.
Many of them remind OP that good partners celebrate every win together, regardless of how big or small. They think he has a lot of growing up to do.
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