OP’s brother, 39 is a father to a daughter named Piper, 15. Unfortunately, when Piper was just four years old, her mother passed away, leaving a void in her life. Despite this, OP’s brother made an effort to keep Piper’s mother’s memory alive by sharing stories and treasured photos with her.
Bullied By Nancy
However, when Piper was six years old, she began to experience bullying from a girl named Nancy, which lasted for over a year.
The situation reached its breaking point when Nancy tore up a photo of Piper’s mother during a show and tell family edition that Piper’s class was doing at school.
Following the incident with Nancy tearing up the photo of Piper’s mother, Piper developed a dislike towards her.
Bully’s Mother Married Him
However, this event brought about an unexpected turn of events when OP’s brother and Nancy’s mother met and became friends. A few months later, they started dating and eventually got married a year later.
Unfortunately, Piper didn’t take the news well and distanced herself from her father. Her discomfort with the situation increased when her father and Nancy’s mother moved in together and got married.
Despite Piper’s resentment towards Nancy, Nancy was eager to establish a relationship with her step-sister. However, Piper wanted nothing to do with it and kept her distance.
Nancy’s mother suggested that becoming sisters would help repair the damaged relationship between Piper and Nancy, but OP thought this was a far-fetched idea, given the history between them.
OP’s brother recently confided in OP, expressing his disappointment that Piper and Nancy hadn’t become close despite his hopes.
However, Piper still holds a grudge against Nancy and wants nothing to do with her, going so far as to not trust her with anything important.
When OP’s brother shared his disappointment about Piper and Nancy’s strained relationship, OP offered an explanation.
Had He Moved On Too Quickly?
OP suggested that perhaps the reason for the distance between the two girls was due to the fact that their father had moved too quickly in his relationship with Nancy.
OP pointed out that their father had started dating Nancy without any apology or resolution regarding the incident with the torn photo, and that Piper was still upset about Nancy’s presence in her life when they got married.
During their conversation about Piper and Nancy’s relationship, OP expressed to OP’s brother that he hadn’t done enough to make things better for Piper.
OP pointed out that OP’s brother seemed to have thought that getting married would automatically erase the hurt that Piper felt and the bullying that Nancy had subjected her to.
Given Her More Time
OP suggested that perhaps if OP’s brother had given it more time, allowed Nancy to apologize, and given the girls some space outside of school to interact, things might have improved.
However, at the time, there was one child who was hurt and angry while the other was eager to have a father figure and sibling after losing her mother at such a young age.
When OP suggested to OP’s brother that he could have handled the situation differently, OP’s brother became defensive.
Piper Dictates His Life
He accused OP of wanting him to let Piper dictate his life, but OP clarified that this wasn’t the case.
OP explained that if her brother wanted Piper to be happy and to have a positive relationship with Nancy, then perhaps taking things more slowly would have been beneficial.
However, OP’s brother was dismissive of OP’s advice and told OP to mind her own business, reminding her that she was just his little sister.
The Reddit users agreed that the OP’s brother was in the wrong for his behavior towards Piper. They criticized his decision to marry Nancy’s mother, who was the mother of Piper’s bully, and bring her into their family.
She Should Have Been Top Priority
They pointed out that Piper’s feelings and wellbeing should have been his top priority, but he ignored them in favor of his own desires.
The users also noted that Piper’s father should have given her space and time to heal from the bullying, instead of forcing a relationship between her and Nancy.
They criticized his dismissive attitude towards Piper’s feelings and his lack of understanding of the consequences of his actions.
They concluded that he was in for a rude awakening when Piper reached legal adulthood and potentially cut him out of her life.
What do you think? What would you do if you were OP?
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