A self-important dad ruffled feathers on Reddit when he revealed that he and his wife hid her daughter’s college fund from her. This, even though she finished her degree! Here is the whole story.
They Started Education Funds for Their Kids
OP is a 54-year-old man has a 23-year-old daughter and a 21-year-old son with his 51-year-old wife.
Both OP and his wife are highly educated and expect the same for their children. OP has a PhD, and his wife has a master’s degree.
When his children were born, OP’s parents started college funds for each of them and continued to build them over the years. But OP and his wife didn’t tell the kids about the money.
That’s because OP figured his kids would go on to graduate school like he and his wife did. They were saving the money to pay for that extra education.
But They Made Different Choices
But things didn’t work out quite like OP had planned.
For starters, OP’s daughter was always interested in the arts. She insisted on going to school to study music and film.
That didn’t sit too well with OP and his wife, but they let the girl make her own choices.
Fortunately, OP’s daughter received enough scholarships to pay for most of her tuition.
She Had To Pay Her Own Expenses, He Got a Great Apartment
But she had to pay for her own living expenses, which meant learning how to budget and living in a not-so-nice area.
Meanwhile, OP’s son went into engineering but didn’t land the kind of scholarships his sister did.
So OP and his wife used the son’s education fund to pay for his tuition and get him a lovely apartment near campus.
OP said that because his son’s school work was very intensive, he needed a quiet and spacious area to work on his studies.
How Was That Fair?
Now, OP’s daughter has a job she loves, but one that doesn’t pay all that much. His son is on the verge of graduating and already has a high-paying job lined up.
But when OP’s daughter saw how her brother lived at his school, she asked him how he could afford it. He told her about the college fund, which confused her and led her to call her parents.
When she asked why she didn’t have a college fund, OP told his daughter that she did. But he and her mother had been saving it to pay for her graduate work.
OP’s daughter grew quiet and seemed to be hurt by his revelation. But then she asked if she could have the money now since she wasn’t going to grad school, anyway.
“There Will Be Penalties!”
OP told his daughter there would be penalties for withdrawing the money for non-education purposes. He also said anything left over would belong to his parents, not her.
That pretty much ended the conversation. OP’s daughter said she understood and hung up.
But ever since then, OP has had trouble getting his daughter on the phone, and she barely even responds to his texts. He knows she’s hurt and upset.
After reading some initial comments from Redditors and talking it over with his wife some more, OP texted his daughter.
Did She Turn Down the Money Out of Resentment?
He said he would be willing to withdraw the money and give her whatever was left after the penalties.
The young woman didn’t seem enthused by that prospect and told OP he should just give it to her little cousin for school.
She also said she might still go to grad school someday but planned to pay for that herself anyway.
OP thinks maybe his daughter is completely done with his wife and him and that she turned down the money out of resentment.
He’s Not Sure How To Fix Their Relationship
He thinks now maybe they messed up big time and he’s not sure how to go about fixing his relationship with the young woman.
Reddit commenters were pretty merciless with OP and think he and his wife are both idiots.
Some accuse him of being sexist, and nearly all of them have a big problem with how he handled the situation with his daughter.
A few really threw some shade and told OP that between his PhD and his wife’s master’s degree, they should have been smart enough to see how wrong they were.
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Source: Reddit