This woman’s boyfriend has been caught talking to young girls multiple times and now she doesn’t know what to do.
Establishing Clear Boundaries
A 27-year-old woman has been in a relationship with her boyfriend, a 26-year-old man, for six years. They met when she was 21 and he was 20 at university, and dated casually for two months before becoming official.
At the beginning of the relationship, the woman tried to establish clear boundaries and expectations, such as cheating is unacceptable, she is child-free and doesn’t want to get married, and communication, honesty, and trust are crucial in a relationship.
Despite the woman’s efforts to establish boundaries, she felt her boyfriend doesn’t always listen to her.
This feeling was exacerbated when she found out that he had lied to her about where he was and had been hanging out with a 16-year-old girl who had a crush on him.
Chatting to a Minor
He had met the girl at his gym and had been talking to her for weeks before mentioning her to the woman.
The woman was not jealous of her boyfriend having female friends, and would not have had a problem with him hanging out with the girl. However, her boyfriend’s decision to lie about it was concerning, and she broke up with him over it.
After some time apart, they got back together and have been working on their communication and other issues.
A recent incident has caused the woman to question whether she made the right decision.
He Finds the Teen Attractive
Her boyfriend got drunk at a family party and told her he loved her, but also admitted to finding a 17-year-old girl named Kay more attractive and wanting to spend time with her.
The woman, feeling ill, spent time with her family and checked her boyfriend’s phone for the first time in their relationship. She discovered he had texted Kay and made plans to meet with her to “talk.”
The woman is understandably upset and seeks advice on what to do next.
One user wrote, “Girl, your adult boyfriend is attracted to and cheating on you with a teenager. Why are you still entertaining this?”
Lying by Omission
Another said, “He’s still hiding a relationship with her from you, so lying by omission. He’s still regularly in contact with a MINOR and is attracted to her. And you want to keep him in your life? Hard pass.”
Bplayfuli exclaimed, “You should have run when you found out a grown ass man gave a 16 year old his phone number! Seriously, how did you miss such a huge, glaring red flag?
What do you think? Is this behavior tolerable? Do you think this is something they’ll be able to work through?
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