Friendship can be challenging to navigate, especially when it comes to major life events like weddings. In a recent Reddit post, a person found herself questioning her role in her childhood best friend’s wedding. Here’s the full story.
She Was Delighted Her Best Friend Was Getting Married
A few months ago the Original Poster (OP) who was still healing from surgery got a late-night call from her friend.
The friend had heard that OP was in the hospital and was concerned. OP drowsily reassured her that everything was okay.
This friend was OP’s childhood best friend, but after college and as life went on, they haven’t spoken much but have met for some drinks and at major life event occasions.
So while they were talking, she showed OP her engagement ring and told her that she is getting married soon. OP quickly changed her tone to one of joy and asked about her wedding.
She Hoped To Be Involved in the Planning Stages
OP thought as they were childhood best friends, OP would be included or invited to the wedding events.
However, days later, the friend shared wedding details over text, mentioning not to worry if OP couldn’t make it. This created confusion and raised questions about the extent of OP’s involvement in the event.
Unaware that OP was not at all a part of anything, OP inquired about the bachelorette party and other topics.
But, OP was informed that the party would be organized by the friend’s younger sister and her “gay best friend.” This revelation left OP feeling excluded.
But She Wasn’t Included in the Bridal Party
OP felt sad and had a sense of loss due to not being included in the bridal party or other aspects of the wedding planning.
Having been an integral part of her friend’s previous major life events, OP felt a pang of disappointment and questioned her part in her friend’s life.
As a result, OP decided to not go to the friend’s wedding. OP took to Reddit to ask if she was wrong in her decision.
Several Redditors said that OP was wrong for what she is planning to do and pointed out that “Just because you aren’t in the wedding party doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go if you consider her your friend you should want to be there for this special day regardless.”
“There Won’t Be Anyone Winning “The Best Friend Ever” Badge”
One Redditor commented, “ This is not a competition, and there won’t be anyone winning “the best friend ever” badge, so chill. She called you in the middle of the night, possibly right after getting engaged (or do you live in different time zones?), and she expressed her wish for you to attend her wedding, so she still cares.”
Another Reddit user wrote, “Yes you would be AH if you don’t go to her wedding. It sounds like you’ve been friends a long time and your absence would be noticed. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t use this experience to learn the difference in how you value each other as friends and adjust your end accordingly.”
So what do you think? What would you do if you were in OP’s situation?
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